We can’t rely on our loved ones for our well-being either. We have a childhood fantasy that some day we will have the perfect loved ones and then they will give us a tremendous sense of well-being. We will have our tight circle of sympathetic attachments, and we will be in there and be ever so happy, and at last everything will be the way it is supposed to be. We are all looking for this, but we can’t count on that for well-being either. If you don’t know that yet, admit it now, because the truth is that it is probably very unlikely that we will ever have a truly deep connection with anyone, unless we are extremely fortunate. All these ideas about where well-being might come from or that it might come about somewhere in the future are insanity.